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Ending the Crazy Cycle: Part II
by: Del Fehsenfeld
04/12/2019
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4 Biblical Conflict Resolution Strategies
Once we’ve identified the four marriage killers, we need to adopt biblical strategies to replace them and resolve conflict.
1. Calm down…and come back!
Prov. 29:11 – Only a fool gives full vent to his anger
It’s a biological fact that when in marital conflict, your heart rate and blood pressure increase. Remember the “flight or fight” response from high school biology? During marital conf...
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Ending the Crazy Cycle: Part II
by: Del Fehsenfeld
04/05/2019
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The 4 Marriage Killers
In our last article, we talked about escalators and avoiders in marital conflict. So what is our next step? What do we do once we’ve identified our own tendencies in this area?
First, we need to stop the four marriage killers.
CRITICISM
Criticism is attacking the person verses focusing on the problem. Couples who address their complaints against one another by attacking their partner’s character instead of simply st...
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Ending the Crazy Cycle: Part I
by: Del Fehsenfeld
03/29/2019
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Albert Einstein was known to repeat that famous definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. But his insight doesn’t take a genius—anyone who has ever been married already knows the insanity that a downward spiral of marital conflict can become. And similar cycles can be experienced in friendships, parenting, work groups, and just about every other human interaction. A crazy cycle ...
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Your Exciting Spending Plan
by: Dan Jarvis
03/15/2019
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MOST PEOPLE DON’T THINK THE WORDS “EXCITING” AND “BUDGET” COULD EVER APPEAR IN CONTEXT TOGETHER – THAT’S WHY YOU SHOULD CALL YOUR BUDGET A “SPENDING PLAN.”
It’s simple, and it will set you free. Free from weekly worries about where money is coming from and where its going. Free from unremembered bills and unaccomplished financial goals. A spending plan is not a limitation on the fun you can have; in fact, it’s a plan that makes your life a ...
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Help Desk: Stress
by: Dan Jarvis
03/15/2019
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WHAT ABOUT STRESS RELIEF TACTICS?
It depends. There are a wide variety of “tactics” out there – from squeezing a ball to religious meditation. Some tactics are practical in nature, and they make a lot of sense. If you feel yourself getting frustrated, take a deep breath and count to ten to calm down. If you feel the need to get some energy out, take a brisk walk around the block. If your day is too busy and you are feeling pressure, take a break and read a...
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5 Practical Ways to Prepare for Stress
by: Dan Jarvis
03/01/2019
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I had a lot to think about in the MRI scanner. It was just a precautionary test, but alone in my thoughts, I had to consider the worst. As the knocking sound pulsed around my motionless body, I wondered what the operator was seeing. Was it like an old episode of House, where senior doctors were being called in for consult about an unknown anomaly or dangerous growth?
My faith, my assumptions about my life and family, my priorities, my memories – all of ...
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Feeling Safe
by: Katherine Jones
02/21/2019
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Peace depends entirely on security, doesn’t it?
Imagine that you settle in to your warm bed, breath a sigh of relief from a busy day, and shut out the lights. You are drifting peacefully to sleep. Suddenly, you hear something – you’re not quite sure if it was real or imagined, but now your eyes are wide open and your heartbeat is picking up the pace. In that moment, there’s probably only one thing you can do to get back to almost-sleeping: get up, turn o...
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The Dating Machine: Part II
by: Dan Jarvis
02/14/2019
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Tools for the Tune-Up
Tool #1: PATIENCE
Better to wait for the best than suffer like the rest.
Psalm 37:3-5, 37:34, Galatians 5:22-23
Starting too early is one of the dangers of dating, and being ready physically doesn’t mean that you are ready emotionally, financially or spiritually. Most people end up suffering through rejection, guilt, and emotional disaster because they can’t wait. They go ahead and date any and everyone, onl...
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The Dating Machine: Part I
by: Dan Jarvis
02/07/2019
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The Problem
Day after day, night after night, a machine has been running – for as long as you can remember. Dad used it, Mom fussed over it, even Grandpa has a few stories tinkering with it when he was “your age.” The quality or the products of the machine are never really questioned; as long as it keeps cranking and clanking, you assume all is well. Dad said it best, “If it’s not broke, don’t fix it.”
Good enough. But what if the machine’s...
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